And the winner is….

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THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU TO EVERYONE who participated in our Greenbacks Giveaway! We appreciate you all and we are grateful to you all for continuing to follow our blogs and such! We will be back with more giveaways soon as this was so much fun. Giving is always its best reward!

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Why HE does not complete you!

He does not complete you!

The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be. ~Oprah Winfrey

As cute as that movie is, with Tom Cruise uttering those iconic and very romantic words, “you complete me”, if you enter your dating life with that thought and expectation you may be in for a very rude awakening. Well, I guess what I should ask is, what does this statement mean to you? Does it mean that the person who comes into your life will bring missing and needed ingredients that will fill the emptiness and or fix the issues in your life? Or maybe they will be able to love you enough to take away any insecurities you may have? Here’s another thought, maybe they will help you get rid of lingering feelings that you are not good enough and show you that you are good enough, desirable and wanted.

All of those issues can and do exist in many of us and they are definitely in need of being remedied, but these are issues we must work on by ourselves. Solo, without another person as a co-pilot. I know for many they are saying, but isn’t that part of a relationship? Shouldn’t we expect our loved one to help us in our time of need? Absolutely, we should expect moral and emotional support from our loved ones. But, these issues are issues that need more than support. They are deep rooted issues that have probably been around since childhood. They need dedicated therapy to discover the root so a future plan can be set in motion to help change that detrimental mindset. More importantly, it is only natural when we are missing and hunger for something, we will reach for whatever is handy to satiate that need. If you have a loving and giving mate, it is not hard to see how they will now become your feeding source. It may not even be intentional, but unfortunately it is a very easy thing to do.

Also consider this, while you are in this vulnerable state, you can be easy prey for someone who will soon turn your life upside down, more than it already is. They can do so because you will be quite needy and maybe even desperate. It is easy to exaggerate situations and see more than there is. So, taking this line to heart can definitely be bad for your heart. You don’t need someone to complete you, you need someone to compliment you. Good relationships happen when two complete people come together. They both bring 100% to the table. They show up willing, knowing and ready to give all that is needed to sustain the new bond they have created. They are supported by their mate in that they add to what they already have and vice versa. Next time you see this movie and hear this line, you can smile to yourself and say, “Hollywood, your fairytales are more than just for a Disney movie.”

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Win $100 Greenbacks for your MoneyDaze HoliDaze!

Win $100

Have you heard that I have partnered with some of my Pushing Lovely fellow bloggers to create a contest giveaway? No? Well, you don’t want to miss out. We are offering some lucky person a chance to win $100 Greenbacks! Just in time for the MoneyDayz Holidaze! Here is the link enter today for your chance to win! It is free!

It’s that time of year! What time? Spending money like it grows on trees time of course! So, could you use some greenbacks? Of course you could and it’s easy to enter to win. You can qualify to win an Amazon or Paypal Gift Card if you just do the following tasks in the graphic bellow. Do as many tasks as you want. The task you pick is represented by how many points (chances) you have to win! How easy is that!! Contest ends November 14th at 11:59 p.m. So come on join now! 

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Beacon In The Night!

Beacon In The Night!

 

If your mind is like a kaleidoscope, IMAGINE with every facet…
If your heart is like the deepest wishing well, BELIEVE to its deepest depths…
If your strength is like that of the strongest strong man, ACHIEVE with all your might…
And, if your loves number more than the stars in the heavens, then by all means let your LOVE shine like a hallowed beacon in the night.

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Vulnerability for Visibility

Vulnerability for Visibility

Love may be blind, but it is what give us 20/20 vision to where we are ultimately able to bring each other into view. ~Catkins

They are loud, boisterous, in your face and will “check” you in a minute! Sometimes you wish you knew why they felt it necessary to be so over the top for almost any and every issue. They jump into places where they were not necessarily invited and proceed to give their full, in-depth opinion, almost challenging you to differ with them. I am sure we all know someone who fits this description, or this person could very well be you! Is all this attitude necessary? Must one really live a life where all cylinders are ready to fire at any given moment? For some this is the only way they know how to live and I have a good idea why.

So, what makes a person want to be so animated? Well, it is complicated. First off, I don’t believe anyone wants to be animated, loud and obnoxious. What people want is to be seen, to be noticed to be given their fair share of attention so that they can feel important and they matter to others. In short they want to be loved, feel loved, to bask in the amazing feeling that being loved gives. Unconditional love that is what they really want!

That may be what they want, but what they settle for is something a whole lot different. Because most people are afraid to ask for love, some don’t know how to ask for love and even more than that, many people have the idea that love is scarce and rationed off to only the extremely worthy, so getting your share requires extreme tactics. Especially if it has never been offered to you before. Finally, there are those who don’t love themselves. They were never given an example of how to love one’s self. This is a critical skill learned in childhood. By the time they get to adulthood, they have been so disadvantaged in this area for so long, that they have substituted many different kinds of disruptive or destructive behavior to elicit attention. So what do they settle for? What is the attention that they find they can get and gives them a measure of importance and much attention, FEAR! They have substituted fear for love. Creating fear they find gets them noticed and gets them respect although it is a temporary respect. This matters not to them cause they have achieved the feat of being seen, acknowledged or noticed. It is often asked, would you prefer to be loved or respected? Many hesitate on the answer of this question. A lot will choose respect. If you ask them how they achieve that, it will inevitably include the utilization of fear tactics.

Being more approachable and helping people understand the best way to reach out to you is YOUR job.

Here is a thought, why not take time to really educate yourself about yourself. Not elements you wished you were based on, or what others may have said to you or how you think you measure up to others out there. Set off on a journey to fall in love with yourself. The way you laugh, your generous heart, your quirky style, things that are authentically you what you truly feel and learn to love it. No one can do you like you, and how much is that worth? A lot! Be vulnerable to yourself! Let yourself call the shots for once. It is an amazingly freeing thing to do and those who matter won’t mind and those who mind well hell they don’t have to matter! This is the best place to start. Being more approachable and helping people understand the best way to reach out to you is YOUR job. But they will love you for it. We love people who share with us what they love and like and want and wish for and believe in. We fall in love with such people because it is so refreshing to see truth in action. Not everyone will buy what you are selling and that is fine, you only want the real customers anyway.

Can you let go of your armor? When you are brutally honest with yourself, can you admit it is love you want and need? If you can know this, as it has been and always will be, only love can bring love.

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Are you using armor to self protect?

Are you using armor to self protect?

 

That suit of amor you are wearing, is it heavy? I mean I know the ones from the days of old were. But this one that you are wearing, this figurative one, the one that keeps you hidden so no one can truly see who you are, is that one heavy too? Maybe it is one that keeps you hidden so you don’t have to actually be yourself and have people inevitably judge you. See, you protect yourself from the judgement because you are sure it will be coming, after all you have so many self-proclaimed faults. Oh, I know which one it is! It is the one that allows you to not exercise the responsibility needed before you act or speak. No matter which one it is, I know it has got to be getting heavy and cumbersome.

How do you know when someone is wearing armor? Well, there are many ways to tell. Attitudes that you may not have previously thought were indicative of someone who is hiding or protecting themselves. Attitudes you may have just chalked up to bad behavior, which it certainly is, but as we all know, there is a reason for everything bad behavior included. So, if we care we must take a deeper look. Many times they are really in need of someone taking the time to ask them why they feel the need to act in such a manner. Yes, I know at times it takes guts, but what it really takes is a high level of care and concern. Take for instance, we all know that person that gossips incessantly. While some of the information intrigues us and gets our attention, there are times when we think, heck if they are gossiping to me about someone else, they must be doing the same thing with someone else and I am the topic. We know that gossiping never resolves any issues, but if someone chooses to do this constantly, maybe they are trying to avoid the next gossip topic be them! Hence the gossip armor! Then there is the straight talking, tough talking at times argumentative person. Oh yeah, nobody is going to get over on this person. No way! At the same time they will let you know nothing gets to them, they are tough as nails, no emotions to trip up this cookie! Sometimes they argue just for the sake of arguing. Yes, yes, yes you can be sure that this most dramatic and drastic act is more than likely hiding some pretty painful past hurts and life events. Nobody is born to be tough and aggressive or defensive at all times. They get that way based on prior events. Or more than likely they get that way because of things that happened to them that they had no control over. Child abuse is very definitely a reason as is many other childhood wrongs. Sarcasm, judging, controlling and cynicism are also behaviors that many armor wearing people hide behind. By now I think you get the idea that these well known bad behaviors have a reason and the reason more often than not is to hide or protect the perpetrator. As crazy as it may seem, what we have to realize is that bad behavior is easy. It does not require thought and most of all it does not require love and of course at the root of everything good or bad is love or the lack there of.

So far I have given some largely negative behaviors. But you would be surprised to know that some behaviors we all see as pretty positive can be indicative of armor? Ever met a people pleaser? Yes, these folks are usually the first ones to volunteer to do something or always there with a solution to something. If they don’t have one they will find one. They are relentless in their mission to make sure everyone sees them as the helpful, I’ll get it done for you, perky personality. Now, I am not saying that all people who enjoy being helpful are people pleasers. What I am saying is that these people if they are not able to please, become very depressed and anxious about what people will think about them. They will typically have issues that center-around what so and so is thinking and is this one or that one mad at them because they did not water the plants. Yes, it can be a simple thing to a major thing, the despair is the same. They are also the same personalities that can be very apologetic and over-commitment is part of their repertoire.

Finally, there are behaviors that for the most part go under the radar and many may not really notice. Behaviors like perfectionism and detachment are in fact armor like behavior. Trying to be perfect in all that you do and say is tiring to be sure, but some prefer it over the other scenario. The more they can make you believe that they are and do everything in a perfect way, the less you will point out any faults and therefore possibly loose your love for them. Again, the root of these behaviors is love. They are so fearful to loose it or for some who have never had it, they practice detachment. Who cares right? Who cares about anything? Whatever you cannot control, who cares! But they do care, and what’s more they want someone to care. Care what they think, care who the are, Care enough to realize that they deserve and are worthy of love. Detached personalities care way more than even they can understand.

In the days of old, going into battle was made safer by the use of armor. It was a protection that was necessary because the enemy was vigilant and had only one agenda and that was to eliminate you. However, in our lives we do have battles but we have a better, more enlightened way to fight. The wonderful and versatile tool of love is all you need. Let it work for you, let it cover you and let it save you. You may use it infinitely! Love will always keep you safe!

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Confines

Confines

I love the confines
of my room
bed sheets crumpled
pillow squashed
these electronics sharing
the space graciously
so many books
and more books
instruments that transcends
that can write thoughts
and mirror images
on colored paper
that I can find.

I love the confines
of my consciousness
acts cohabiting with
thoughts and memories
the unspoken trivia
that’s wanting to burst
like Nimbus clouds of non
or sporadic irrational
subjected to
thorough interrogation
and to release
what’s most
fervent in my mind.

I love the confines
of this body
my hands showing signs
of age and years
of care giving
breast supple with
these hip still spreading
in the hope of  child bearing
not caring that I’m almost
half century
cause I’m still wanting
to bump and grind.

I love the confines
of my psyche
no apologies cause I
cannot  be tamed
uncontrollable beast
of individuality
born of strength
determined to change
their ideal of my
inner child my élan vital
that she
should be like them
the ethos of their kind.

I love the confines
of my authenticity
my message is the same
be ye child or aged
be kind be true be valid
be you not him or her
or them or construe
be humble be poor no
earthly value
can repute who you are
if you are Bona Fide.

by Sonia Valencia Singh

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Once Upon A Time…The Remix!

Once Upon A Time...The Remix

 

I thought true love was unattainable
Happiness was unimaginable and honest friends would be there to the very end.

I thought good money wouldn’t be mine to hold
I’d live in poverty and not streets paved in gold
And no chance of extra money for me to have or even spend.

It suddenly occurred to me
For the longest it had been just a blur to me
And I finally realized honestly and precisely what these things were to me.

For so long I have been searching far and wide,
Underneath, overhead, up and down and totally outside
Hesitant to blink but never did I think to look within my inside.

All the pleasures that I could ever dream for
Were treasures that I’d absolutely scream for
Positivity and enlightenment produced my peace of mind,
As I stare at blue skies and wonder…Once Upon a Time.

By Eric O’Neil (EON)

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Once Upon A Time…

Once Upon A Time...

 

Once upon a time…

I thought my love  would never change. I thought my career would last till I quit. I thought my life would bring me no sudden surprises. I thought my world could easily be controlled.

Once upon a time…

I had a love that did not know how to love me. I had a career that had a direction I no longer wanted. I had a life that had so many surprises I could not recognize the norm. My world had a mind of its own and spun out of control.

Once upon a time…

I wanted a love that would grow and always understand me. I wanted a career that I was sure of and it was right for me. I wanted a life that had surprises that I could plan for. I wanted a world that I at least knew up from down.

TODAY, AT THIS PRESENT MOMENT IN TIME…

I’ve accepted a love that has taught me more about love. I have accepted a career that leads me to adventures never dreamed of. I’ve accepted that life is full of wonderful experiences, trying lessons and growth affording trials. I’ve accepted that my world is not for the controlling but for journeying and exploring and there is no up or down. I have accepted that my only movement is…FORWARD.

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