The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be. ~Oprah Winfrey
As cute as that movie is, with Tom Cruise uttering those iconic and very romantic words, “you complete me”, if you enter your dating life with that thought and expectation you may be in for a very rude awakening. Well, I guess what I should ask is, what does this statement mean to you? Does it mean that the person who comes into your life will bring missing and needed ingredients that will fill the emptiness and or fix the issues in your life? Or maybe they will be able to love you enough to take away any insecurities you may have? Here’s another thought, maybe they will help you get rid of lingering feelings that you are not good enough and show you that you are good enough, desirable and wanted.
All of those issues can and do exist in many of us and they are definitely in need of being remedied, but these are issues we must work on by ourselves. Solo, without another person as a co-pilot. I know for many they are saying, but isn’t that part of a relationship? Shouldn’t we expect our loved one to help us in our time of need? Absolutely, we should expect moral and emotional support from our loved ones. But, these issues are issues that need more than support. They are deep rooted issues that have probably been around since childhood. They need dedicated therapy to discover the root so a future plan can be set in motion to help change that detrimental mindset. More importantly, it is only natural when we are missing and hunger for something, we will reach for whatever is handy to satiate that need. If you have a loving and giving mate, it is not hard to see how they will now become your feeding source. It may not even be intentional, but unfortunately it is a very easy thing to do.
Also consider this, while you are in this vulnerable state, you can be easy prey for someone who will soon turn your life upside down, more than it already is. They can do so because you will be quite needy and maybe even desperate. It is easy to exaggerate situations and see more than there is. So, taking this line to heart can definitely be bad for your heart. You don’t need someone to complete you, you need someone to compliment you. Good relationships happen when two complete people come together. They both bring 100% to the table. They show up willing, knowing and ready to give all that is needed to sustain the new bond they have created. They are supported by their mate in that they add to what they already have and vice versa. Next time you see this movie and hear this line, you can smile to yourself and say, “Hollywood, your fairytales are more than just for a Disney movie.”
Peace & Light
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