Love may be blind, but it is what give us 20/20 vision to where we are ultimately able to bring each other into view. ~Catkins
They are loud, boisterous, in your face and will “check” you in a minute! Sometimes you wish you knew why they felt it necessary to be so over the top for almost any and every issue. They jump into places where they were not necessarily invited and proceed to give their full, in-depth opinion, almost challenging you to differ with them. I am sure we all know someone who fits this description, or this person could very well be you! Is all this attitude necessary? Must one really live a life where all cylinders are ready to fire at any given moment? For some this is the only way they know how to live and I have a good idea why.
So, what makes a person want to be so animated? Well, it is complicated. First off, I don’t believe anyone wants to be animated, loud and obnoxious. What people want is to be seen, to be noticed to be given their fair share of attention so that they can feel important and they matter to others. In short they want to be loved, feel loved, to bask in the amazing feeling that being loved gives. Unconditional love that is what they really want!
That may be what they want, but what they settle for is something a whole lot different. Because most people are afraid to ask for love, some don’t know how to ask for love and even more than that, many people have the idea that love is scarce and rationed off to only the extremely worthy, so getting your share requires extreme tactics. Especially if it has never been offered to you before. Finally, there are those who don’t love themselves. They were never given an example of how to love one’s self. This is a critical skill learned in childhood. By the time they get to adulthood, they have been so disadvantaged in this area for so long, that they have substituted many different kinds of disruptive or destructive behavior to elicit attention. So what do they settle for? What is the attention that they find they can get and gives them a measure of importance and much attention, FEAR! They have substituted fear for love. Creating fear they find gets them noticed and gets them respect although it is a temporary respect. This matters not to them cause they have achieved the feat of being seen, acknowledged or noticed. It is often asked, would you prefer to be loved or respected? Many hesitate on the answer of this question. A lot will choose respect. If you ask them how they achieve that, it will inevitably include the utilization of fear tactics.
Being more approachable and helping people understand the best way to reach out to you is YOUR job.
Here is a thought, why not take time to really educate yourself about yourself. Not elements you wished you were based on, or what others may have said to you or how you think you measure up to others out there. Set off on a journey to fall in love with yourself. The way you laugh, your generous heart, your quirky style, things that are authentically you what you truly feel and learn to love it. No one can do you like you, and how much is that worth? A lot! Be vulnerable to yourself! Let yourself call the shots for once. It is an amazingly freeing thing to do and those who matter won’t mind and those who mind well hell they don’t have to matter! This is the best place to start. Being more approachable and helping people understand the best way to reach out to you is YOUR job. But they will love you for it. We love people who share with us what they love and like and want and wish for and believe in. We fall in love with such people because it is so refreshing to see truth in action. Not everyone will buy what you are selling and that is fine, you only want the real customers anyway.
Can you let go of your armor? When you are brutally honest with yourself, can you admit it is love you want and need? If you can know this, as it has been and always will be, only love can bring love.
Peace & Light
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