Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things!
I am interrupting my regularly scheduled blog post to pen this more pressing one. It will be a short one, but I think it begs to be told.
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS! They are what many of us desire. However, making it work eludes us to the tune of over 50% of marriages ending in divorce. Consider this, try forgetting 50% of everything you have ever learned about making a relationship work. What will that do? It will give you just that much more brain power to start entertaining and doing different things without having old, non-effective ideas getting in the way.
What are the things you can do? Well, I am not going to give you a clear cut list of answers, but I will say this: Long lasting romantic relationships more times than not, are the ones you never, ever expected to be in. The man did not come in like a Prince Charming, or the woman like a heavenly angel. Most likely it was the regular guy or girl who swept you off of your feet without glass slippers or horse drawn carriage rides. They just happened to say hello and maybe complimented your smile, but engaged you in the most thought provoking conversation that opened your mind in ways never experienced before. Yes, a bit of old school approach, no flash, no swag just a good old fashioned hello, still works! Secondly, if the relationship starts off with you being challenged on all your staid views of what you believe a relationship needs to work, or what your perfect man or woman needs to act like or look like, then yes, this is one to pursue! Especially if you have NOT been successful in relationships thus far. See, as much as you may not want to admit or even consider this, the problem is you! Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to agree with everything each other says and does to be compatible. You don’t even have to like all the same things to have harmony. Life thrives on growth via change, and self challenges is one of the best ways to grow. If your relationship is pushing you to grow in positive ways, this is a great thing as it will always remain fresh and exciting keeping you tuned in for more. The ride will be just too enjoyable to get off. No boring, predictability here!
So stop looking for the matchy, matchy and copacetic cohabitation, or the person who is ready to do as you say, think as you think and want what you want, and try walking on the unworn path where you can challenge yourself to try what they are doing, entertain their thoughts and find value in what they want. Think about it, what do you have to loose? A relationship you don’t currently have? What do you have to gain? A new understanding of how challenging yourself to take advantage of all what is offered you in love and life, to find the things that are the best for you, is actually the way you get the most out of life topped off with the most rewarding of relationships.
Peace & Light
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