Relationship Remix – Tried But Untrue

Relationship Reevaluation

Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things!

I am interrupting my regularly scheduled blog post to pen this more pressing one. It will be a short one, but I think it begs to be told.

ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS! They are what many of us desire. However, making it work eludes us to the tune of over 50% of marriages ending in divorce. Consider this, try forgetting 50% of everything you have ever learned about making a relationship work. What will that do? It will give you just that much more brain power to start entertaining and doing different things without having old, non-effective ideas getting in the way. 

What are the things you can do? Well, I am not going to give you a clear cut list of answers, but I will say this: Long lasting romantic relationships more times than not, are the ones you never, ever expected to be in. The man did not come in like a Prince Charming, or the woman like a heavenly angel. Most likely it was the regular guy or girl who swept you off of your feet without glass slippers or horse drawn carriage rides. They just happened to say hello and maybe complimented your smile, but engaged you in the most thought provoking conversation that opened your mind in ways never experienced before. Yes, a bit of old school approach, no flash, no swag just a good old fashioned hello, still works! Secondly, if the relationship starts off with you being challenged on all your staid views of what you believe a relationship needs to work, or what your perfect man or woman needs to act like or look like, then yes, this is one to pursue! Especially if you have NOT been successful in relationships thus far. See, as much as you may not want to admit or even consider this, the problem is you! Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to agree with everything each other says and does to be compatible. You don’t even have to like all the same things to have harmony. Life thrives on growth via change, and self challenges is one of the best ways to grow. If your relationship is pushing you to grow in positive ways, this is a great thing as it will always remain fresh and exciting keeping you tuned in for more. The ride will be just too enjoyable to get off. No boring, predictability here!

So stop looking for the matchy, matchy and copacetic cohabitation, or the person who is ready to do as you say, think as you think and want what you want, and try walking on the unworn path where you can challenge yourself to try what they are doing, entertain their thoughts and find value in what they want. Think about it, what do you have to loose? A relationship you don’t currently have? What do you have to gain? A new understanding of how challenging yourself to take advantage of all what is offered you in love and life, to find the things that are the best for you, is actually the way you get the most out of life topped off with the most rewarding of relationships.

Peace & Light

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About Caroll Atkins

Loving Designing Living!! All forms of design intrigue me. As a graphic designer, I design for my livelihood (C.A.SlyDesigns) but as a writer, I do it for my living! At this time in my life, I MUST write. LoveDesignLife, is my joy and my gift to you. If my articles resonate with you, I pray they will also help you in life much as living them and writing about them has helped me. Today, it is no longer about thinking outside of the box. It’s bigger!! It is all about “Transcending the sphere!” coined by yours truly. I work hard to accomplish my goals. However, if I ever fall short I don’t worry I just eat cake cause tomorrow is another day!!
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6 Responses to Relationship Remix – Tried But Untrue

  1. Love these words of wisdom here! There are quite a few people that I know that could use this advice for sure! Thanks for sharing!

  2. If you agree with everything your partner says and/or do, then you are unhappy. Stop looking for someone like you instead look for someone that compliments you & that you can grow with.

    Great article!

    • Yes, ma’am! So many are looking for their matchy matchy counterpart because they don’t want to do any work. We have to work and as you said, we need someone who compliments who we are and what we do not make it so we don’t have any friction or issues in a relationship. A little challenge is just want we need a lot of the times to grow strong and vigilant.

      Peace & Light

  3. Anonymous says:

    This is so true. Folks are so hooked on this compatibility thing that they miss out on everything else. DorisL

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