Romantic love…sweet intoxicating, giving you the highest of highs love. We all want this, and of course why shouldn’t we have it, but we must realize that this is a stage. This is not a forever position. It cannot be, will not be and should not be. This is where you start! For those who do not realize this, they are doomed to go from one love affair to the other like a dope fiend searching for that next high. Finding someone that makes you so happy, you feel so complete and believe all your cares to be gone is beautiful but is really what’s called romantic love. Romantic love is the first stage of a romance. Romantic love weaves a spell that is nothing less than intoxicating. This is not yet real love though. If you have the strength and desire coupled with some definite substance to stick around, if there is more in this pairing, then do so because real love is yet to come.
Love is a journey, this you may have heard before. What we may not realize is though love is a journey it is a journey with much personal benefit. This journey promises us much growth, and we will definitely be challenged. It leads us in areas we don’t want to go so we can learn things we need to know. We must learn to strip love of any illusions and romance, so that it can show us what we need to know about ourselves. The pure essence of love prepares us to deal with life and relationships. The disappointments, the unfairness, and the betrayals. As I said before, love is a challenge and every time we learn to handle its challenges, we are better equipped to having successful relationships.
When you realize that to enjoy the truest gifts of love you must be challenged, you can wholly embrace the thought that the beauty and permanence of love, is the challenge. ~Catkins
If you are currently in a relationship and it is new or fairly new and you want to know if in fact you have the real thing, simply wait. While waiting, the initial stages of romance will wane. It will transition as you start to see more reality in your relationship. More ups and downs, more challenges, more differences and yes even pain. Do these substantial changes draw you closer as you go through them or are they tearing you all apart? Real love provides the soft cushion to help in these hard knocks. Real love does not dwell on these misfortunes, but quickly go past it to make sure the individuals continue to feel cared for and appreciated. It concerns itself less with issues and more with cause, where the sole purpose is to ensure the parties continue to feel loved regardless of what they may be dealing with at the moment. When you are in a union that promotes this, you will quickly realize that this is far more substantial than the heart racing, intoxicating feelings of new romance. It is like admiring a beautiful coat and being very excited to own it, but not fully appreciating it till that one cold, cold day comes around and it’s warmth protects you in the most satisfying way. When you realize that to enjoy the truest gifts of love you must be challenged, you can wholly embrace the thought that the beauty and permanence of love, is the challenge. Still wondering how to get there? Time, time will surely tell!
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