Of Love and Romance

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Romantic love…sweet intoxicating, giving you the highest of highs love. We all want this, and of course why shouldn’t we have it, but we must realize that this is a stage. This is not a forever position. It cannot be, will not be and should not be. This is where you start!  For those who do not realize this, they are doomed to go from one love affair to the other like a dope fiend searching for that next high. Finding someone that makes you so happy, you feel so complete and believe all your cares to be gone is beautiful but is really what’s called romantic love. Romantic love is the first stage of a romance. Romantic love weaves a spell that is nothing less than intoxicating. This is not yet real love though. If you have the strength and desire coupled with some definite substance to stick around, if there is more in this pairing, then do so because real love is yet to come.

Love is a journey, this you may have heard before. What we may not realize is though love is a journey it is a journey with much personal benefit. This journey promises us much growth, and we will definitely be challenged. It leads us in areas we don’t want to go so we can learn things we need to know. We must learn to strip love of any illusions and romance, so that it can show us what we need to know about ourselves. The pure essence of love prepares us to deal with life and relationships. The disappointments, the unfairness, and the betrayals. As I said before, love is a challenge and every time we learn to handle its challenges, we are better equipped to having successful relationships.

When you realize that to enjoy the truest gifts of love you must be challenged, you can wholly embrace the thought that the beauty and permanence of love, is the challenge. ~Catkins

If you are currently in a relationship and it is new or fairly new and you want to know if in fact you have the real thing, simply wait. While waiting, the initial stages of romance will wane. It will transition as you start to see more reality in your relationship. More ups and downs, more challenges, more differences and yes even pain. Do these substantial changes draw you closer as you go through them or are they tearing you all apart? Real love provides the soft cushion to help in these hard knocks. Real love does not dwell on these misfortunes, but quickly go past it to make sure the individuals continue to feel cared for and appreciated. It concerns itself less with issues and more with cause, where the sole purpose is to ensure the parties continue to feel loved regardless of what they may be dealing with at the moment. When you are in a union that promotes this, you will quickly realize that this is far more substantial than the heart racing, intoxicating feelings of new romance. It is like admiring a beautiful coat and being very excited to own it, but not fully appreciating it till that one cold, cold day comes around and it’s warmth protects you in the most satisfying way. When you realize that to enjoy the truest gifts of love you must be challenged, you can wholly embrace the thought that the beauty and permanence of love, is the challenge. Still wondering how to get there? Time, time will surely tell!

Peace & Light

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About Caroll Atkins

Loving Designing Living!! All forms of design intrigue me. As a graphic designer, I design for my livelihood (C.A.SlyDesigns) but as a writer, I do it for my living! At this time in my life, I MUST write. LoveDesignLife, is my joy and my gift to you. If my articles resonate with you, I pray they will also help you in life much as living them and writing about them has helped me. Today, it is no longer about thinking outside of the box. It’s bigger!! It is all about “Transcending the sphere!” coined by yours truly. I work hard to accomplish my goals. However, if I ever fall short I don’t worry I just eat cake cause tomorrow is another day!!
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12 Responses to Of Love and Romance

  1. jolynproject says:

    “It is like admiring a beautiful coat and being very excited to own it, but not fully appreciating it till that one cold, cold day comes around and it’s warmth protects you in the most satisfying way.” Love this! You’re on point with this. Do you think it’s possible to receive the reality of the situation in the beginning of a relationship?

    • I believe that if one forms an idea of what they think is going on in the beginning, then it could very well be premature and could be based on personal beliefs and preconceived expectation. What I do believe you can achieve in the beginning is the an understanding of whether or not you are finding substance in the person and events that are unfolding. Enough substance will form the glue that will help you decide whether you have something worth staying for and pursuing. The opportunity to put that to the test comes with conflict. Conflict in my opinion is what is necessary to find the proving ground for one’s love. We like to avoid it but it is a fact of life and does not have to be done where we come away hurt and bewildered. Done correctly, we will learn exactly what our love is made of and how deep and real it truly is.

      Peace & Light

  2. This is so true. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a bit now, and we’re far from the romance love. Although we try our best to bring it back every so often. Over the years I have truly come to appreciate him for what he does and what I can do, when we are together. Hard times definitely feel less hard with him at my side. Plus one can only function high for so long before they need a bigger fix, yes??

  3. Butterflies don’t last that is true. However as the years go by, once in a while something will happen that will make the butterflies come back for a moment and it is a sweet thing. I really enjoyed this post.

  4. Anonymous says:

    You are so right. The butterflies don’t last . Reality sets in, and then you can figure the whole thing out,. Time will tell if it’s for the long haul. DorisL

  5. You’re correct. The butterflies fly away and the schoolgirl grin fades. That’s why it’s important not to make major decisions in that stage that could impact you for a long time to come. My favorite time is moving beyond that phase to a connection that’s more comfortable than your favorite pair of sweat pants straight rom the dryer-warm and snugly:)

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