You play it safe, you avoid or refuse to make a choice. You say “whatever will be will be”, totally misunderstanding this decree. What you fail to recognize and you are too blinded to see, is to not make a choice is really making a choice against thee! catkins ©2012
Over the holiday season I was at an event and was given a choice to pick from either a box of chocolates or my favorite, a Snickers gift box. The Snickers box had several of the Snicker choices in it, yum! The box of chocolate looked beautiful enough, packaged in gold foil. It seemingly held a promise that the chocolate inside would be delicious. However, there was no way of telling what type of candy was in it. Was it dark chocolate, chocolate covered cherries, or maybe even nougat covered with chocolate all of which I don’t like. Some of the upper scale chocolate boxes will have a key to let you know, but this one did not so it was a mystery. So what was I to do, go safe and pick what I know I like or take a chance on mystery chocolate. For some that would be easy, go with what you know and like. You will be happy, satisfied and you will get exactly what you expect theoretically making you pleased with your choice. I mean life is too short to eat crappy chocolate right? On the other hand, there maybe some goodies in the other box.
Right about now you may think I get it this is a metaphor for choice, and you would be right. However, I am not talking about the simple choice of choosing, but the choice of discovery. See, if I pick the Snickers, sure I have just made a choice, and a very good one because I like Snickers. I am sure to enjoy it and feel fortunate that I got this option. It’s safe, it’s assured, my satisfaction is pretty much guaranteed, which is good enough right? However, if I pick the box of mystery chocolate I have made a choice that leaves me uncertain as to my future satisfaction. There is a possibility that I may not like very many choices in there or maybe nothing at all. Hmm, on first glance this does not look like a good deal at all. It almost seems like a no-brainer?
Well, I chose the box of mystery chocolates. I did so because life to me is all about chance and discovery, and choice is a wonderful way to experience this. Playing it safe and choosing to go with what you know works, what you know you like, what you know will bring you satisfaction, all be it the SAME amount of satisfaction that it has always brought is NOT how we keep our life dynamic, exciting, energetic and yes fulfilling. For some, these adjectives I have mentioned has already made them feel tired and apprehensive. This may be a real sign to you that you are extremely settled and complacent in life. You may have one or many issues you wish could be resolved. “Different day, same $hit” may be your mantra. Hopefulness and optimism have long since departed your daily mindset. Or worse you could be that perpetual dreamer who believes that someday one day it will all get better. You hold on to that dream, while you change nothing of how you live and employ no actions otherwise.
That box of mystery chocolate is symbolic to how I see life. With each wrapped chocolate, I get the chance to discover something delicious, something new and untried, a chocolate that I can add to my repertoire of chocolates. I immediately started to think of chocolate combination that I have heard of and have not yet tried. Could I find it here? The box sparked my imagination, it became exciting to pick through my choices. Even more than that was the fact that I had the strength to deny myself the comfortable, tried and true choice and look with optimism to the unknown. You see at the end of the day, whether that box contained all my faves, new faves, or no faves at all is not the point. The point is my real choice is that I was willing to take the chance with the box of mystery chocolate therefore, maximizing my choices, increasing my options, fostering my desire for growth and giving my life delicious new options. So, the choice to choose, the choice to take a chance, the choice to discover or uncover is the ultimate choice. Some might see my original choice as not a real choice, because one item was known and the other wasn’t. This is the problem for lots of people thinking they don’t have REAL choices. They discount what they don’t like, what is not readily identifiable as not a real choice. Whether we like it or we don’t. Whether we understand it or we don’t. We always have a choice!! Besides, isn’t life really just a box of chocolates!