Isn’t it great how well written movies with great actors can take you away to the point where you feel like you are having the same experience as the characters. Do you find that if the storyline has elements that you find happening in your life or has happened in your life, you resonate even more? I do and I walk away loving that movie. We love movies because we can escape. Escape to imagine all kinds of fantasies. Now, some of us carry the fantasy over to real life. In minute bits and pieces, some of the elements stay with us. We walk out of the movies believing that we can totally rock a wardrobe like that or a hair style or even party in that manner. Sometimes we get motivated to achieve new feats in our lives, way beyond what was otherwise perceived. So, if a movie has the power to deeply resonate with you, can pain and painful experiences do the same?
Before you scratch your head and wonder what in the world am I saying, think about this. Is the pain that you are harboring a result of your personal life’s events? Is it really pain that actually came from events YOU experienced early on? I say this not to be insensitive, but because I started thinking about conversations I have had with friends and how they would describe events that are painful and how they are suffering because of it. However the events were not always from personal occurrences, but at times from events they’ve observed. They observed, claimed and absorbed these events for so long that the initial discomfort ballooned from bystander into full out personal pain. Now I am not discounting the pain a bystander may feel, I am simply saying that we need to try as much as possible to put things into perspective so we can relinquish all that is not good for us. Since we are taught to claim and own our feelings, the confusion we feel around these events linger with us. To add to this, we are not taught that negative events that happen around us are not ours to own. We are not taught that others negative choices perpertrated on us should not become part of us nor should it reside and be carried on within us. We are not taught that we are not responsible for others bad decisions no matter how much they blame us. Can you imagine having harbored most of these events for most of your formative years and early adulthood! You would feel that you are a magnet for bad experiences. What if you have a personality that is geared toward being self-centered or self-involved? What if you have ego issues? Such personalities stress the “me” in all situations. Can you see how those personalities will help to exacerbate any underlying issues and claim the pain even more. This happens because these personalities are prone to own and claim, and unfortunately ego doesn’t know or care about the difference between claiming the good from the bad, all it wants to do is own and claim. It believes owning and claiming is the best thing to do to protect it and keep it alive.
So, what are you to do? The only thing I know that works for sure is prayer and meditation. This works because it evokes the Spirit in us. It uncovers the light in us which helps drive away darkness and negativity. Spirit loves the light. Pain loves darkness. Spirit brings about love and compassion which is invaluable in driving out pain.
What would we have to hold in compassion to be at peace right now? What would we have to let go to be at peace right now? ~Jack Kornfield
Remember spirit opposes ego’s demands because spirit says I want the best for “all” concerned, which diametrically opposes ego which only wants it all, fooling us to believe wanting it all is best for us. So it goes about the business of claiming every things good or bad. Prayer is supplication to our creator. To be in supplication to our creator is again opposed to ego which says supplicate onto yourself. Pain is personal, pain is defensive, pain is irrational. It uses fear and anger to sustain itself. Since pain and anger are not of us and need a reason to come to us, close the doors and PRAY!